our KIDS

kidsOur children, to me, seem to have lost out on so much. Their World has become so planned and organized without any need on their part required.

They will never know the days of their grandparents who had no Internet and in some cases not even a television. They made their own entertainment and played not with store bought toys but their own imaginations.

Through no fault of their own today’s kids are born into an age of the Internet, gadgets that grab their attention from such an early age. It is almost like an addiction as we all, young, working age or retired have come to depend on it for whatever we do. Something as necessary as banking, shopping, researching information etc. and social media etc.

Children do not do as we say but as we do. If you are constantly on your phone they will also do just that.

Parents today are working harder to be everything, the best at work, having the best car and house, be best parent, cooking the most nutritious meals just to name a few. It is not possible to be the best at everything.

So who suffers? The children. Several years ago it used to be easy to allow them to watch a few innocent cartoons on television. They were happy while their parents were able to make supper.

Now while you keep trying to still get on with as many tasks as possible, you hand them the iPhone and get on with whatever you need to do. Quite often you assume they are on a safe site which can so often not be the case.

Nothing beats one on one time with your kids. Turning off all devices for an hour or two and just laughing together as you play a few games or do crafts. Some turn out, others not so much. The important part is just enjoying being together.

Before you know it you will be attending their graduation and wonder where the time went without those amazing memories.

Babysitting a young child we had unbelievable fun doing just that until at around 7 years old. Instead of a bag full of paper, markers & stickers, they arrived with an iPad, that precious one on one time gone forever.

Obviously it is the way we live, work and even do school work now so it is not as if we can ignore it. We love it.

All parents throughout the ages have said they were so happy they were not bringing up their grandchildren in whatever relevant year. Nowadays, children are facing things, they cannot fully understand having access to so much information as well as being aware on things talked about FaceBook or other Social Media pages.

Times change and we have to change with them but, nothing will ever replace being the solid foundation for your kids to grow up on. Just accept and incorporate what is current but keeping them grounded at the same time is a huge responsibility but worth every second. If you are in any position to wait until your child is in school for a full day before heading back to work, grab the opportunity.

Turning off your devices immediately after coming home and listening to whatever it is they have on their mind is priceless, building a bond and secure place for them.

The words in this song from quite some time ago says it all.

‘Toy land, toy land, beautiful girl and boy land

Once you pass its borders, you can never return again”

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Oscars

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It seems that there is a non stop season of awards for those who entertain us, whether in movies, TV, music or theatre.

A fortune is spent by those nominated to have the perfect dress or tuxedo, immaculate make up and hairstyle. Their fans would not recognize them without all of this. When they are not working and enjoying being at home….so many go without all the makeup and also jump into the comfy sweatpants or jeans as most of us do.

Seeing as the Oscars were just this week so many people try to see as many of the nominated movies as they can before watching the awards.

It used to be a fun nite, seeing if your favorite took home the top award.

The actors also seemed to appreciate winning, knowing they had reached a high point in their career.

Nowadays the acceptance speech has become a stage for airing their opinion on everything, whether political which is too often the case, or just their views on what they think people are interested in. Where did they get the idea that anyone cared, it is called opinion and everyone forms their own opinion right or wrong, and having an overpaid actor using the forum of the Oscars or other awards ceremony is beyond annoying.

These actors may have the ability to portray a variety of different characters, are able to memorize their lines etc. but are so hugely overpaid to do so.

The cost passes down to the fan who goes to see the film. Taking your family to the movies has become a very costly treat if you add in the snacks as well. Who can watch a movie without popcorn!!!

If only the winning actors just thanked a few people and got off stage. they would be far more respected.

It has become the “thing” to do at sporting events as well. Again talented athletes airing their opinions when no one is interested. It has just driven people away from some games as well as the hero status the athlete may have had, to fans not wanting them to even play and in some cases finding themselves suspended.

Wouldn’t it be nice if these actors and athletes used their celebrity status to help others, campaign to raise money to help those in need, to even set up foundations that would have continuing effects.

Maybe when they notice that viewing of these shows has dropped drastically and at some sports events the former hero has people not attending they will take notice. Only thing they have managed to do is damage their industry and annoyed so many we just do not watch anymore.

Excuses

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First of all, Happy New Year to everyone. I wish you a Happy & Healthy 2018.

Funny how for some reason, if we cannot started on something we need to do, or really want to do, we turn it into our New Years resolution.

When we make these “promises” to ourselves, we are sincere, we believe in our determination. How many of us have tossed our resolutions within the first 10 days of the New Year. We all love the “comfortable” feeling of staying where we are, doing the same thing.

It all comes down to excuses. It is amazing that none of us ever runs out of excuses. As soon as someone questions us about something, the excuse is instantly there even though we had no idea what we may be asked!

How does that happen? We do not intend to fall short of completing what we promised. Some people go beyond an excuse & just say whatever they “think” the person wants.

No one teaches us to do this, in fact the opposite is very likely true, but as soon as we go to school as tiny kids in Kindergarten, we start. Does it come down to us trying to say or do something that may make us friends?

As we go thru school, we can make excuses that as you think of them as an adult are funny now. Somehow we manage to get thru school, still having an excuse for why our assignment was late, why we were late or did not show up for a particular event. That is probably because the teacher or coach did the same thing? But they will never let you know. Sometimes I think it is easier to make what we consider a reasonable excuse than admitting you are actually guilty of not doing what you promised. Our intentions are honest.

Now as adults, our excuses are more often to ourselves. We are all so very busy, we have a list of what has to be done, and the more we seem to cross off that list
we add to it daily never feeling we are getting anywhere. We do everything that is expected of us, whether work related, for our children, for any committees we
may be on etc. So who do we make an excuse to,.. ourselves. We justify why it did not get done and where does it go…on that long list!!

I have no idea how, come the holidays, for very many of us Christmas, and
New Years celebrations, we get so much done, we do all that has to be done at work, we buy and wrap the gifts we have for our loved ones, we entertain, perhaps even be the one who hosts Christmas dinner and have 15 to 20 people over, family mostly, for Christmas but we do not make excuses.

So, why does this happen? We finally run out of excuses because we have a deadline that cannot be added to that long list. These events come on the same date every year. So we step up to the plate and get the job done.

So what does that tell us? Maybe to toss the lists?

I do not think we can dispense with our trusty “ to do list”, It does play a role in getting us thru the many demands we face, but I wonder if we put a deadline date on everything would that help?

I doubt it, as we will make an excuse why not!! We all do it, know I am guilty.

 

 

Remembrance Day

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One day out of 365 days is not enough to thank all those brave, unselfish armed forces for their sacrifices. If not for them, how different our World would be.

World War One was the war to end all wars. So much for that! Little did they know that their loved ones, their children, would again be at war, enduring unimaginable sacrifices too.

How sad that something causes these wars to start with. The Korean, Vietnam wars and nowadays non stop conflicts, wars, and terror attacks are still causing so much loss, unrest and grief for so many.

To see people on the news carrying whatever possessions they have trying to get their families to safety, breaks your heart. How sad it has to be this way.

I’m not going to get into the politics, why’s and wherefores of it all. For some reason throughout the ages it has been something that seems to always have been…likely about power and control.

Let’s hope your sons or daughters will not have to follow in the same path.

But regardless of that, if you are fortunate enough to live in a Country where you are free due to the sacrifices of others, take time today if only that one moment of silence to say a heartfelt thank you.

A Canadian soldier ,JohnMcCrae, wrote a poem in WWl that so represented what he saw. This is only the first verse.

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below