Excuses

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First of all, Happy New Year to everyone. I wish you a Happy & Healthy 2018.

Funny how for some reason, if we cannot started on something we need to do, or really want to do, we turn it into our New Years resolution.

When we make these “promises” to ourselves, we are sincere, we believe in our determination. How many of us have tossed our resolutions within the first 10 days of the New Year. We all love the “comfortable” feeling of staying where we are, doing the same thing.

It all comes down to excuses. It is amazing that none of us ever runs out of excuses. As soon as someone questions us about something, the excuse is instantly there even though we had no idea what we may be asked!

How does that happen? We do not intend to fall short of completing what we promised. Some people go beyond an excuse & just say whatever they “think” the person wants.

No one teaches us to do this, in fact the opposite is very likely true, but as soon as we go to school as tiny kids in Kindergarten, we start. Does it come down to us trying to say or do something that may make us friends?

As we go thru school, we can make excuses that as you think of them as an adult are funny now. Somehow we manage to get thru school, still having an excuse for why our assignment was late, why we were late or did not show up for a particular event. That is probably because the teacher or coach did the same thing? But they will never let you know. Sometimes I think it is easier to make what we consider a reasonable excuse than admitting you are actually guilty of not doing what you promised. Our intentions are honest.

Now as adults, our excuses are more often to ourselves. We are all so very busy, we have a list of what has to be done, and the more we seem to cross off that list
we add to it daily never feeling we are getting anywhere. We do everything that is expected of us, whether work related, for our children, for any committees we
may be on etc. So who do we make an excuse to,.. ourselves. We justify why it did not get done and where does it go…on that long list!!

I have no idea how, come the holidays, for very many of us Christmas, and
New Years celebrations, we get so much done, we do all that has to be done at work, we buy and wrap the gifts we have for our loved ones, we entertain, perhaps even be the one who hosts Christmas dinner and have 15 to 20 people over, family mostly, for Christmas but we do not make excuses.

So, why does this happen? We finally run out of excuses because we have a deadline that cannot be added to that long list. These events come on the same date every year. So we step up to the plate and get the job done.

So what does that tell us? Maybe to toss the lists?

I do not think we can dispense with our trusty “ to do list”, It does play a role in getting us thru the many demands we face, but I wonder if we put a deadline date on everything would that help?

I doubt it, as we will make an excuse why not!! We all do it, know I am guilty.

 

 

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Remembrance Day

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One day out of 365 days is not enough to thank all those brave, unselfish armed forces for their sacrifices. If not for them, how different our World would be.

World War One was the war to end all wars. So much for that! Little did they know that their loved ones, their children, would again be at war, enduring unimaginable sacrifices too.

How sad that something causes these wars to start with. The Korean, Vietnam wars and nowadays non stop conflicts, wars, and terror attacks are still causing so much loss, unrest and grief for so many.

To see people on the news carrying whatever possessions they have trying to get their families to safety, breaks your heart. How sad it has to be this way.

I’m not going to get into the politics, why’s and wherefores of it all. For some reason throughout the ages it has been something that seems to always have been…likely about power and control.

Let’s hope your sons or daughters will not have to follow in the same path.

But regardless of that, if you are fortunate enough to live in a Country where you are free due to the sacrifices of others, take time today if only that one moment of silence to say a heartfelt thank you.

A Canadian soldier ,JohnMcCrae, wrote a poem in WWl that so represented what he saw. This is only the first verse.

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below

 

Hallowe’en

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It does not matter how old you are, Hallowe’en is just plain fun!!!

How can anyone not like it?

But sadly some people do not. Maybe you grew up in a Country that did not celebrate it. Perhaps a religious affiliation felt it inappropriate.There are several reasons why you may not get the idea of why it is so much fun.

This started out many centuries ago. In the 15th century especially in Ireland and Scotland. November 1 is All Saints Day and so October 31 was called All Hallows’ Eve. It was a time when people were remembered, if their spirits were felt, and to honour their past relatives. Dressing up was a way to honour past martyrs.

With the mass immigration to the United States in the 19th century, the tradition was introduced. Like most things do, traditions change and ways of observing this event also expanded to a different type of observance.

Today it is a huge celebration of really just plain fun.

I have always loved the fun of Halloween. By the beginning of October your mind starts to seriously think about what costume you will wear. Parties are planned whether at home, in school or any group you may be involved in.

There are so many choices from traditional to the latest Disney movie characters to being totally original in coming up with your own idea.

Party games like bobbing for apples, trying to pick up the slippery seeds of a pumpkin,  telling spooky stories and passing it on by whispering it and so fun to see what that sounds like by the time the last person gets it whispered in their ear, putting your hands into a big bowl of slimy stuff to find a hidden object to guessing how many candies are in a big jar. You are only limited by your imagination but the kids are having a great time. And of course judging the best costume, and yes, not everyone wins!

So regardless of whether you ever experienced Hallowe’en in your Country or fully understand why it is enjoyed, it is all about fun nowadays.

I think kids going door to door getting treats is all fun. Take the wee ones out, let them have a giggle. Stuffing their little faces with candy, nuts or potato chips is not a bad thing once a year, just monitor how much each day and check the treats before allowing them to eat them.

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Oh what funny things I’ve seen

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Broom stick riders

Mice and rats 🎃👻

Happy Hallowe’en

Kids and Laughter

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Nothing beats the sound of kids playing, giggling and having fun. It all so innocent, not yet weighted down by responsibility and time restrictions, if they can think of it, they just do it.

There was a song years and years ago from perhaps a movie but the words “Childhood, childhood, beautiful girl and boyhood” were part of the lyrics.

You do not hear that same happy sound outside much anymore. Used to be when school got out, the kids were running around playing tag, hide and seek, throwing a ball around and inventing a new game. If a park was close by, then they were on the swings, seesaw, or slide.

Occasionally a bump or scratch brought a few tears but a run home and Mom would patch them up and off they went again. Natural exercise, learning to share, or even have a bit of a squabble but working it out on their own. Daycare did not exist, Mom was home. The super feeling of security for a child needing a hug.

Depending of how many years ago, if it was a rainy day the coloring books came out, the toys, little cars or dolls to entertain. No television way back when our grandparents were kids. They thoroughly enjoyed what they had. A new toy made by grandparents made them so happy. Maybe granddad showed a young boy how to make a wooden car or gramma showing her granddaughter how to knit put smiles on their faces.

At school, you learned to respect your teacher, do your best to do well and if per chance you did something to annoy the class you were put outside the classroom to stand in the hallway or if you were really naughty a call home to Mom!! You knew that meant a serious reprimand, even telling Dad when he came home from work. You were taught consequences for actions.

Today school kids have to be picked up from school and so often that can even be a bus taking them to a daycare where they have to wait until their parents get home from work. Playtime has to be organized with “play dates”. Cannot just run down the street and knock on a friends door.

Our children are placed into so many activities each day of the week from dance or art class, gymnastics, maybe organized sports like baseball, hockey, maybe tennis or swimming.

Being active is fantastic and if possible should be part of their growing up but…sometimes way too much.

Our kids are overwhelmed with the demands made on them. It is up early and off to school or the wee ones dropped off at daycare with no time for a leisurely breakfast as their parents have to get to work. Other people are bringing them up. A babysitter is likely the person taking them to all these activities. Then back home to handle homework waiting for Mom or Dad to come home. All are tired and so often mealtime suffers as hunger has set in and no one wants to wait to eat. Often comes down to ordering delivery or hopping in the car to go to a fast food restaurant. no time for sharing each persons day,  the TV is on. Parents feel guilty and mentally promise themselves things will change, but can they?

Perhaps to compensate or who knows what, parents have sided with their kids over the complaints of their teachers and are off to the school to file complaints about the teacher instead. If a child is injured in even a minor way that activity gets banned from the school playground.

With the stress we all are under, the television or computer, iPhone etc have become the entertainment. Off to bed and it all starts again very early the next day.  And they cannot relate to anything their grandparents can tell them as it is beyond their imagination.

Although we all do the very best we can, which child had or has a better life? Grown kids today have become insensitive to others feelings. Is that because so many people have been involved in their growing up? The ideals their parents have for them become a mix of so many.

For all our advances, sometimes those simple times may have been right.