Why?


Watchng TV the past few days is truly beyond words. The World has become such a different place in the last few years especially. 

These people did not do anything wrong. They were enjoying a vacation, a nite out, fun with friends, some having travelled to Las Vegas after saving for a few years for that special trip from overseas, hoping to see a star performer, concert, just have a really good time. 

From nowhere suddenly as of now, 59 people have lost their lives, families torn apart, and for years to come may never fully recover without serious counselling, over 500 injured with some injuries taking forever to deal with. For some little children their Mom or Dad are not coming home to them. 

Right away there will be another question about whether guns should be allowed. If guns are a right by law to carry, I do not see that changing. But should the everyday person need to have or be able to buy guns that can fire so quickly? How many guns did this particular man have?

So many attacks are by someone using truck or van to drive into crowds of people. London for one, was a van driving into people on the bridge hitting so many. Again these innocent people were just going about their daily lives. 

It is bad enough that terrorists cause devastation and are so happy to claim responsibility but there are so many lone wolf attacks that have nothing to do with that. 

Times have so changed. It seems concern about your fellow neighbor, co-worker or even a stranger on a train no longer exists. In a very small way, devastation is also caused by those who drive with while texting, have been out partying, are under the influence or something else never thinking about the harm they could do to the people sharing the road. Difference is they actually think they are able to drive, text, or talk on their cell phones. 

We all have opinions every time something as horrific as the Las Vegas incident occurs.  As hard as it may be, we need to step back for a moment and try to understand why.  

Who knows what is making these people do such dreadful things. Obviously they are unwell. In the Las Vegas case it was such a well planned event for him. Who knows why he flipped out as it appears he had held a responsible job at some time, enjoyed gambling, did things that so many do. Occasionally family or others realize there were signs that this person may be having personality changes but always too late. 

There are so many ways to describe the person who did this deadly deed but who are we to judge. We have to try and see both sides of the coin, though certainly not understanding. 

It breaks your heart to hear the stories of those injured, the terror they endured. 

At times like this we cannot forget the brave, caring, beautiful people who go in and help immediately.  

Also remember, most everyone are loving, caring people.  We can never lose sight of that. We are 
all neighbors in the sense that regardless of Country we do love each other. 

“Somewhere over the rainbow blue birds fly”

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Moving

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To move or not to move?

So many things come into play with moving.

Are you moving because you wish to? Maybe a transfer or other work opportunity. Depending on who you are, maybe your kids have grown up, have their own families and you wish to be closer or downsize. Hopefully you are making this decision on your own and have not had your employment been deemed redundant.

There are any number of reasons why a move may be in your future. Bottom line is, you are about to pack up and be on your way to a new place, around the corner, across country or even a new country.

If you have moved before, you have an idea of what is involved but for those who have not, it can be a huge and overwhelming time, especially for those who have lived in a particular place for many years. Experts have said it is one of the most stressful times for anyone.

Fear not. You will come out the other end and find a lot of your apprehensions were imagined. Just take a deep breath, get a pen & pad of paper and write down what you can think of. Seeing it rather than imaging it are two so very different things. When you can read it you will also not have to remember what it was you thought you should do and forgot about.

After finding your new home, just look at your check list and do what needs doing as in contacting the electric, gas, water, cable TV, and Internet companies, anyone whose services you use and depend on so that as soon as you move in, your services are there waiting for you. Waiting a few days for the mover to bring your possessions is not as big a deal as not having things you depend on daily. And in some cases perhaps you have taken this opportunity to sell some of your older things so the new purchases can be delivered then.

The most important thing is to keep an eye on that check list all along the way.  First pack up  the “ good” stuff like dishes, glasses, keepsakes etc that you will not need until after the move.

Gradually move onto things hidden away in closets. Do you need it? Amazing what you can find that you have kept, put away and forget you even have. Maybe this is a good time to have a garage sale or advertize these items. Why pay to move things you no longer need?

Eat up things in the pantry that are there to use one day.

If children are involved get them registered into their new schools so there is no delay in their education or move when the kids are on school holiday.

If you have pets, they feel your anxiety, know something is happening but trusting you to take care of them. Depending on whether your cat or dog can suffer from changes, decide if boarding them for a few days would make them happier. Cats especially have been known to hide and cannot be found when you are about to lock the door and get of your way.

Having moved several times across countries I really understand the process.

Bottom line, enjoy the process. You will be so happy in the long run having the opportunity to embrace how people in different places live. You will not regret it though occasionally it will have challenges for you if your favorite store, TV show, products that seem unfamiliar and depending on where you may move to, perhaps learn a new language. It is all good.

Most important, take a time out every once in awhile, enjoy a yummy treat and latte, cuppa tea or wine!

Embrace and Enjoy it!

eCards or Greeting Cards?

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eCards or Regular Greeting Cards What is your preference?

We are so lucky now to have alternative ways of wishing our friends, relatives or even closer acquaintances a happy day for whatever reason. Which is best?
Years ago, there were no options so no decisions to be made.

Nowadays, we have an overload of choices in everything we do. Personally, I think if someone takes the time to send good wishes, it does not matter what method they choose.

Many of us live in places spread out across the Country or even the World. When it comes to sending a “happy birthday” or whatever the occasion is, you have to consider how long it takes for that card to arrive. That can vary depending on where you are living & where it may be going.

Personally with having friends or family around the globe, I’ve had wishes arrive from several days too early to several weeks too late!

The post offices in every Country complain about the need to increase prices due to a drop in usage. I wonder why??? The cost goes up but the delivery still takes a long time. Sometimes you wonder why?? It is all going via airmail, no one is rowing a boat from Country to Country!!

For me, whoever it is, they thought about me on a specific occasion and took time to send an eCard that arrived immediately.

We all live such insanely busy lives, connecting with friends thru so many different ways has become how we stay in touch now. Times do change and we just have to be ready to accept it whether or not it is our choice.

Some grandparents, who cannot wrap their head around the Internet, social media etc., still would prefer a real card that they can hold, put up on shelf and leave there until the next card arrives. So please keep sending whatever card is appropriate for the person you are sending to.

The very best, though, has to be the hand drawn card from your child or grandchild.

So much thought and hard work goes into that and the joy on their faces is priceless as they hand it to you.

Bottom line, think about who you are wanting to send wishes to and send the right card for them.

And above all else, just be happy to know that someone you love or care about cares enough about you to send best wishes for you. Enjoy!!

Fathers Day

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The third Sunday in June is Father’s Day in many Countries. Depending on where you live it can vary by several months. In North America and quite a few European countries this is the day they choose. Australia & New Zealand celebrate theirs in September.

The date really does not matter. Just celebrating our Dads is what counts.

This year celebrates the 100th anniversary of the first Father’s Day. It was first celebrated in Spokane Washington. This was inspired by a lady who wanted to honor her Dad who raised 6 kids as a widower.

It was not accepted immediately by everyone even a lot of men themselves.

Even though President Woodrow Wilson had declared Mother’s Day an official holiday to celebrate on the second Sunday in May, it was not until 1972 that President Richard Nixon made Father’s Day an official day to honour Dads.

But none of the history matters. It is a day when we take extra time to reflect on our own Dads.

Dads many years ago were the bread winners, brought home the money needed to take care of the family he loved dearly. He would take on extra hours of work to make sure his children had what was necessary. Moms, for the most part, did not go to work outside the home then, but stayed home to look after the children.

Depending on your Dads employment you did not always get to spend as much time as possible with him but there was never any doubt that he loved you dearly.

I feel so lucky to have had an amazing Dad. He was never a really well person, but that never stopped him from going to work. He was brilliant without a formal college education. The pride in his face, whenever he introduced us to someone, we always knew how important we were to him.

Never does a Fathers Day go by without spending extra time thinking of him.

I hope you have or had someone who took care of you that way.

Seeing as the weather is warmer for Fathers Day than it is for Mothers Day it is a great day to have a picnic, barbeque, or take in a baseball game. Bottom line, just enjoy the time together if you can.

If distance prevents you getting to celebrate with each other, we can at least have Face Time together. How great is that! If you have lost your Dad then spend time reflecting on all he was to you. If there are no happy memories, then think about someone who may have stepped up to help you along the way. Make your own if you are a Dad so your children can have happy moments remembering you.