Our children, to me, seem to have lost out on so much. Their World has become so planned and organized without any need on their part required.
They will never know the days of their grandparents who had no Internet and in some cases not even a television. They made their own entertainment and played not with store bought toys but their own imaginations.
Through no fault of their own today’s kids are born into an age of the Internet, gadgets that grab their attention from such an early age. It is almost like an addiction as we all, young, working age or retired have come to depend on it for whatever we do. Something as necessary as banking, shopping, researching information etc. and social media etc.
Children do not do as we say but as we do. If you are constantly on your phone they will also do just that.
Parents today are working harder to be everything, the best at work, having the best car and house, be best parent, cooking the most nutritious meals just to name a few. It is not possible to be the best at everything.
So who suffers? The children. Several years ago it used to be easy to allow them to watch a few innocent cartoons on television. They were happy while their parents were able to make supper.
Now while you keep trying to still get on with as many tasks as possible, you hand them the iPhone and get on with whatever you need to do. Quite often you assume they are on a safe site which can so often not be the case.
Nothing beats one on one time with your kids. Turning off all devices for an hour or two and just laughing together as you play a few games or do crafts. Some turn out, others not so much. The important part is just enjoying being together.
Before you know it you will be attending their graduation and wonder where the time went without those amazing memories.
Babysitting a young child we had unbelievable fun doing just that until at around 7 years old. Instead of a bag full of paper, markers & stickers, they arrived with an iPad, that precious one on one time gone forever.
Obviously it is the way we live, work and even do school work now so it is not as if we can ignore it. We love it.
All parents throughout the ages have said they were so happy they were not bringing up their grandchildren in whatever relevant year. Nowadays, children are facing things, they cannot fully understand having access to so much information as well as being aware on things talked about FaceBook or other Social Media pages.
Times change and we have to change with them but, nothing will ever replace being the solid foundation for your kids to grow up on. Just accept and incorporate what is current but keeping them grounded at the same time is a huge responsibility but worth every second. If you are in any position to wait until your child is in school for a full day before heading back to work, grab the opportunity.
Turning off your devices immediately after coming home and listening to whatever it is they have on their mind is priceless, building a bond and secure place for them.
The words in this song from quite some time ago says it all.
‘Toy land, toy land, beautiful girl and boy land
Once you pass its borders, you can never return again”