IMG_0373Memories. The moment you hear the word, suddenly so many things come to mind. Then when you start to think about “memories” your thoughts can go into so many directions.

Depending on how old you may be, family circumstances and whether they are happy ones does bring up the first response to your mind.

If you had a happy childhood then perhaps you are remembering yourself as as small child going to school on your first day, meeting a friend that you still keep in touch with, thinking how much you do as your parents did or maybe your grandparents, how they spoiled you. It IS the thing grandparents can be really good at!

They are a part of you and those memories should be cherished. Today people spend hours & sometimes a fair amount of money tracking down relatives online to find their heritage. Some of the results are amazing taking you to places you never imagined.

Maybe it makes you think about your own children, the day they were born, accomplishments however small that put a smile on your face.

Perhaps you have lost someone you loved dearly and are dealing with that grief. Again the happy memories will help you thru even if it sometimes may bring a tear.

One idea that can help is writing down all the fun things you did together or remember about them. It may even put a smile on your face. It will not take away that feeling of loss or grief but will definitely help you. Ask friends and family if they can send you some of their memories of that person.

So everything helps whether dealing with loss, having a chuckle about the silly things you have done or being able to share these thoughts with others, maybe you thank goodness for memories.

You actually are busy making your memories for others to remember you by.

As things come to mind on any given day, jot them down and start a file on your computer or even an old fashioned file where you have printed out those and filed them. As long as they are not left tucked away in your mind only, share all the moments.


City or Country Life


Which one are you?

We are all so different which makes us all that much more interesting.

Funny but there are two basic sides we are all on in any given situation. It does not matter what topic, but for this blog I am referring to City or Country preferences

City lovers enjoy the vibrant activities, the action, choices of close by entertainment, and dining in fine restaurants etc. They love the amazing skyscrapers, no travelling long distances to work or entertainment. They love the views from the top of the buildings.
Personally I think that is great…. if you are that type of person.

On the other hand, the Country lover would far prefer to be a long way away from the City, going there only when there is no choice as in having appointment or taking in a concert or play that the family really wants to see. Once a year is more than enough.
No one is right or wrong. It is what is right for that person.

For me there is no doubt. The view in the forest far outweighs that of a towering building. Give me trees, gardens, flowers, trails to walk, the sounds of the crickets or frogs at night. The beautiful smell of nature each different season.
Walking through a forest of tall trees and hearing the little animals scurrying about, the squirrels, chipmunks during the day and at nite the sounds of the nocturnal creatures like raccoons, porcupines and skunks. Perhaps something a little larger depending on where you are. If camping in that environment it could be fox, or perhaps even a bear. I have camped with all of them.

Having a home even in the suburbs allowing you to perhaps have a garden and grow your own veggies is relaxing and enjoyable. The smell of freshly cut grass it awesome.

The City lover could think of nothing they would less like to do. For the most part these are very busy professional people who have to be in the City all the time for work, have adapted to and come to love City life. For them a weekend in the Country is all they need occasionally.

When you think about it, both love a jungle, one of trees, the other of skyscrapers.

For me it is all about Country but that does not make me right. It is what is right for you and what you enjoy.

Which do you prefer? Something to ponder.

Nite Owl or Daytime Person

IMG_0346Nite Owl or Daytime Person
Which one are you?

Many of us have jobs, kids in school, and a variety of things that just have to be done during the day. The farmer certainly is not out there at night looking after his animals or planting in the dark. But they do harvest at night when necessary.

Having said that, it does not make all these people a Daytime person, just doing what they have to do when the time is relevant.

The Nite Owl just loves working and enjoying all the things that are going on after 5:00pm. They love to stay up late so enjoy working a nite shift, having late dinners, and watching all their favorite TV programs that they can stream later. The needs of the day are done, kids asleep, no phone calls, it is your time.

What is right? There is no right or wrong. Research has proven that we have a
built in clock that makes us who we are. There are schools, now, that have come to realize that all children should not be starting school quite so early. Personally I am a firm believer in that. You cannot change who you are anymore than a leopard can change its spots!

There is one huge problem though that Daytime people do not understand. For them it can seem that if you get up at noon or a bit later, then you are lazy. They have been at work or doing their thing for 5 or so hours and cannot figure out how someone could be in bed. It may never cross their mind that perhaps you went to bed just before they got up.

It is very hard to be a Nite Owl in a daytime World. The thing is, though, that they do what they have to if commitments are daytime related. There is no choice. What happens to Nite Owls is, regardless of how early they had to be up and at it during the day, their most unnatural time, come nite time they wake up making for a very long day.

The Daytime person will just tell them to go to bed earlier. It does not work that way. Your body clock is not ready for sleep. You will toss and turn, no sleep whatsoever unless a short catnap, making it very hard to get up for your daytime job the following morning.
Where the Nite Owl can adapt, even at hardship to their biological clock, the Daytime person is programmed to the normal sun up and sun down time. The Daytime person will crawl into bed almost as soon as the kids are tucked in.

No one is right or wrong. What is it right for you? You are the only one who counts. Just know, people may never quite understand you, try as you may to explain it.

So be yourself regardless of criticizms. Your friends or relatives will understand that that is who YOU are, even if they do not quite “get it”.

I totally understand as I am the ultimate Nite Owl, I have been since I was a wee child.

eCards or Greeting Cards?


eCards or Regular Greeting Cards What is your preference?

We are so lucky now to have alternative ways of wishing our friends, relatives or even closer acquaintances a happy day for whatever reason. Which is best?
Years ago, there were no options so no decisions to be made.

Nowadays, we have an overload of choices in everything we do. Personally, I think if someone takes the time to send good wishes, it does not matter what method they choose.

Many of us live in places spread out across the Country or even the World. When it comes to sending a “happy birthday” or whatever the occasion is, you have to consider how long it takes for that card to arrive. That can vary depending on where you are living & where it may be going.

Personally with having friends or family around the globe, I’ve had wishes arrive from several days too early to several weeks too late!

The post offices in every Country complain about the need to increase prices due to a drop in usage. I wonder why??? The cost goes up but the delivery still takes a long time. Sometimes you wonder why?? It is all going via airmail, no one is rowing a boat from Country to Country!!

For me, whoever it is, they thought about me on a specific occasion and took time to send an eCard that arrived immediately.

We all live such insanely busy lives, connecting with friends thru so many different ways has become how we stay in touch now. Times do change and we just have to be ready to accept it whether or not it is our choice.

Some grandparents, who cannot wrap their head around the Internet, social media etc., still would prefer a real card that they can hold, put up on shelf and leave there until the next card arrives. So please keep sending whatever card is appropriate for the person you are sending to.

The very best, though, has to be the hand drawn card from your child or grandchild.

So much thought and hard work goes into that and the joy on their faces is priceless as they hand it to you.

Bottom line, think about who you are wanting to send wishes to and send the right card for them.

And above all else, just be happy to know that someone you love or care about cares enough about you to send best wishes for you. Enjoy!!