Excuses

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First of all, Happy New Year to everyone. I wish you a Happy & Healthy 2018.

Funny how for some reason, if we cannot started on something we need to do, or really want to do, we turn it into our New Years resolution.

When we make these “promises” to ourselves, we are sincere, we believe in our determination. How many of us have tossed our resolutions within the first 10 days of the New Year. We all love the “comfortable” feeling of staying where we are, doing the same thing.

It all comes down to excuses. It is amazing that none of us ever runs out of excuses. As soon as someone questions us about something, the excuse is instantly there even though we had no idea what we may be asked!

How does that happen? We do not intend to fall short of completing what we promised. Some people go beyond an excuse & just say whatever they “think” the person wants.

No one teaches us to do this, in fact the opposite is very likely true, but as soon as we go to school as tiny kids in Kindergarten, we start. Does it come down to us trying to say or do something that may make us friends?

As we go thru school, we can make excuses that as you think of them as an adult are funny now. Somehow we manage to get thru school, still having an excuse for why our assignment was late, why we were late or did not show up for a particular event. That is probably because the teacher or coach did the same thing? But they will never let you know. Sometimes I think it is easier to make what we consider a reasonable excuse than admitting you are actually guilty of not doing what you promised. Our intentions are honest.

Now as adults, our excuses are more often to ourselves. We are all so very busy, we have a list of what has to be done, and the more we seem to cross off that list
we add to it daily never feeling we are getting anywhere. We do everything that is expected of us, whether work related, for our children, for any committees we
may be on etc. So who do we make an excuse to,.. ourselves. We justify why it did not get done and where does it go…on that long list!!

I have no idea how, come the holidays, for very many of us Christmas, and
New Years celebrations, we get so much done, we do all that has to be done at work, we buy and wrap the gifts we have for our loved ones, we entertain, perhaps even be the one who hosts Christmas dinner and have 15 to 20 people over, family mostly, for Christmas but we do not make excuses.

So, why does this happen? We finally run out of excuses because we have a deadline that cannot be added to that long list. These events come on the same date every year. So we step up to the plate and get the job done.

So what does that tell us? Maybe to toss the lists?

I do not think we can dispense with our trusty “ to do list”, It does play a role in getting us thru the many demands we face, but I wonder if we put a deadline date on everything would that help?

I doubt it, as we will make an excuse why not!! We all do it, know I am guilty.

 

 

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Fashion

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Fashion is such a personal choice. What may be the perfect thing for you is something another may never even stop long enough to look at.

It always makes me wonder each year, spring & autumn, when the designers have their fashion shows, what they were thinking. Have you ever seen any of the outfits, regardless of which successful designer is showcasing their creations, in a store? Maybe it is only me but it is almost comedy hour for a lot of them.

But it is such a lucrative business. People attend the fashion shows, seemly always sold out, to be first to know what will be available the following season.

The models are paid a fortune if lucky enough to be chosen to be on the runway. These models are beautiful, attractive people but why are they not allowed to smile, have an expression of at least enjoying what they are doing. They all look angry with everyone. Also, who do you know that walks the way they do in real life?

These designers dictate the colours that you will be wearing come spring or winter. Going shopping you find most clothes are in shades of their chosen color.

Not all colors suit everybody. While dark colors like black and purple look amazing for some, they are the worst choice for others. Florals not always great, either.

One style right now that is hideous to me is the women’s dresses where it looks like they forgot to finish it with sleeves open, shoulders showing even if you have bony unattractive shoulders.

Men are so much luckier with fashion as basically they always have comfortable clothes. Whether they are going out for a casual lunch, to work, out for an evening they are always cozy and comfy.

If it is a freezing cold night they can put a t-shirt on under a shirt and be warm, out partying they have flat shoes. Why do women have to suffer sore feet from the high heels, being cold as a dress offers nowhere to add another layer.

As long as women accept these choices then there will be no alternative. I love it when someone goes against tradition and does their own thing. At big functions that are on television like the Oscars etc. they are judged harshly by the press on what they wore.

Dressing up for special occasions is fun, you feel good, but not be limited in your choice.

So to all the women out there, be your own person, wear what you like and not was is expected from you. Bottom line who cares what others think.

Remembrance Day

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One day out of 365 days is not enough to thank all those brave, unselfish armed forces for their sacrifices. If not for them, how different our World would be.

World War One was the war to end all wars. So much for that! Little did they know that their loved ones, their children, would again be at war, enduring unimaginable sacrifices too.

How sad that something causes these wars to start with. The Korean, Vietnam wars and nowadays non stop conflicts, wars, and terror attacks are still causing so much loss, unrest and grief for so many.

To see people on the news carrying whatever possessions they have trying to get their families to safety, breaks your heart. How sad it has to be this way.

I’m not going to get into the politics, why’s and wherefores of it all. For some reason throughout the ages it has been something that seems to always have been…likely about power and control.

Let’s hope your sons or daughters will not have to follow in the same path.

But regardless of that, if you are fortunate enough to live in a Country where you are free due to the sacrifices of others, take time today if only that one moment of silence to say a heartfelt thank you.

A Canadian soldier ,JohnMcCrae, wrote a poem in WWl that so represented what he saw. This is only the first verse.

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below

 

Hallowe’en

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It does not matter how old you are, Hallowe’en is just plain fun!!!

How can anyone not like it?

But sadly some people do not. Maybe you grew up in a Country that did not celebrate it. Perhaps a religious affiliation felt it inappropriate.There are several reasons why you may not get the idea of why it is so much fun.

This started out many centuries ago. In the 15th century especially in Ireland and Scotland. November 1 is All Saints Day and so October 31 was called All Hallows’ Eve. It was a time when people were remembered, if their spirits were felt, and to honour their past relatives. Dressing up was a way to honour past martyrs.

With the mass immigration to the United States in the 19th century, the tradition was introduced. Like most things do, traditions change and ways of observing this event also expanded to a different type of observance.

Today it is a huge celebration of really just plain fun.

I have always loved the fun of Halloween. By the beginning of October your mind starts to seriously think about what costume you will wear. Parties are planned whether at home, in school or any group you may be involved in.

There are so many choices from traditional to the latest Disney movie characters to being totally original in coming up with your own idea.

Party games like bobbing for apples, trying to pick up the slippery seeds of a pumpkin,  telling spooky stories and passing it on by whispering it and so fun to see what that sounds like by the time the last person gets it whispered in their ear, putting your hands into a big bowl of slimy stuff to find a hidden object to guessing how many candies are in a big jar. You are only limited by your imagination but the kids are having a great time. And of course judging the best costume, and yes, not everyone wins!

So regardless of whether you ever experienced Hallowe’en in your Country or fully understand why it is enjoyed, it is all about fun nowadays.

I think kids going door to door getting treats is all fun. Take the wee ones out, let them have a giggle. Stuffing their little faces with candy, nuts or potato chips is not a bad thing once a year, just monitor how much each day and check the treats before allowing them to eat them.

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Oh what funny things I’ve seen

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Broom stick riders

Mice and rats 🎃👻

Happy Hallowe’en